So, on our way home from our LG (lifegroup) meeting yesterday, we arrived at my lady friend’s stop (she happened to be one of our guests at LG that day), and one of my other friends who was driving quickly (semi-jokingly) quipped that I should already be out of the car and on the other side opening the car door for her. She asked if I really had to and I responded saying, “I could,” but she was easy, & so she opened the door and left.
The 3 of us, gentlemen, that were now left in the car then began having a conversation around that. “Is it really necessary to seek to be a gentleman to the point of looking weird? I mean, yes I’ll hold out the door for a lady as we walk into a building, or assist her in carrying a heavy load, but aii, sometimes you just need to be practical,” commented my friend who was seating on co-driver’s seat.
My driving friend shared with us an example about how the main boss at their company is such a gentleman, always opening car doors for ladies and closing them once they are in (and by the way, all these ladies are junior to him), & opening for them once they get to their destination. He also shared that whenever he is with him, he is always admonished to do the same.
This whole discussion got me thinking: to what end is all this chivalry? Is it just to prove that one is a gentleman? I was then reminded of a sermon by Andy Stanley titled “The Gentleman’s Club”, where he admonished men to bestow honour upon the women in their lives, regardless of their social status, age, etc. We live in a society where women are looked down upon many times, as being inferior to men, and the conclusion I came to was that such acts of chivalry not only raise the esteem of the woman, but also act as a reminder to the gentleman that she is of great value and worth, just as much as he is.
That said, I’m still a bit hesitant about extending my gentleman traits towards now opening and closing car doors, especially when the lady is in the car and I have to get out and open the door for her. Once I start, I don’t want to stop, so the jury is still out on that so…we’ll wait and see 🙂
I’d love to know what you think though. As a lady, what do you make of such acts by men? Do you feel honoured by them? Do you think it’s necessary?
For the guys, are these chivalrous acts things that you do/don’t do? Why/why not?